Essential Tools For A Marriage That Works

An understanding of marital responsibilities is a key ingredient to a successful marriage. To develop a meaningful marital relationship, couples need to know themselves, their partners and learn to grow together.

Communicating Right

Effective communication reinforces a marital relationship. We need to express our thoughts and feelings as much as we want attention and responses:

• Communication is a skill
• Effective communication takes practice
• Communication is about listening and speaking
• How we express our thoughts and feelings is important and is reflected verbally and non-verbally
• Listening is just as important as we interpret what we hear and see

Couple Talk Time

Some tips for effective communication :

L I S T E N

L- earn to check or reflect on feelings expressed by your partner. This helps to internalize the emotions of your partner, clarify your understanding of the situation, and convey empathy.
Your partner remarks, “There’s much work to do. And you’re telling me what I should be doing!..”You could respond gently, “ I understand that you are feeling upset and tired because there is so much to do”.

I- ndulge in regular routine conversations, such as news, jokes and daily happenings at work. Just by being together , or doing mundane things are also valid forms of connecting.

S- hare your dreams, goals and hopes with each other.

T- ake time to appreciate each other especially after time spent apart. Validating each other in small ways help keep the love and respect for each other going.

E- xplore flexible and creative ways of communication, e.g. writing short notes, using symbolic cues and messages, physical contacts, etc. Develop your unique signals and cue.

N- urture a wider scope of conversations and the places where it can take place. Enjoy group conversations with friends to broaden the scope of conversation.

Do you have any problems communicating with your spouse or the other half?

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